The Truth

"friends are the jewels of life." Good statement! But does it weigh enough to be true in all contexts and situations of life?! Let's begin with understanding the anatomy of friendship.

When a person meets another person, the subconscious starts to decode the the signals received based on conversation, presentation and body language. Based on this feedback, chemicals are released in the brain of the subjects and the body starts generating vibes. Sometimes they are good vibes, sometimes they are bad. If bad, then the moment the conversation is over, the subjects leave and forget about each other. But when there are good vibes, the subjects start bonding. This bond ignites a feeling of goodness, happiness and belonging.

Based on these chemical equations, we choose and base all our friends and friendships.

That means that a friend is nothing but merely a chemical equation gone right under favorable conditions and circumstances.

Now that we have established a meaning to the equation and coined a term friendship for it, let's dwell upon the types of friendships.

1) Timely - One of the most common type of friendship. People meet, spend time, leave.

2) Commercial - People stick with you till the time there is a commercial viability attached to you or them. Benefits and rewards add fuel to this type of friendship.The moment the rewards start becoming rare or scarce, either party quits.

3) Addon - A friend of a friend is a friend. (gf's and bf's usually instigate such friendships)

4) Social - Attaching oneself to a famous personality with the intention of rubbing some stardust on yourself. Usually ends in time with a reality check.

5) Unconditional - rarest of the rare. Usually begins with the intention of staying together in any situation. High's and lows inclusive. Starts in early stages of life. Ends suddenly without warning.

6) Best friends - Myth

The basic fact is that everyone is looking for something. Some are looking for a good time, others for someone to talk to, some for someone to cling on, some for other monetary or ulterior motives and some are looking for just a true and honest friend.

So then you ask yourself.. How do I find an honest, loyal and best friend. Well here's the truth..You cannot. There is no such thing as a true friend.. it's just people hanging on till the time they find it comfortable. As soon as they find an exit, they leave. These exits can be in form of other people better, more interesting or commercially viable than you or maybe they just loose interest. It's a swift move, people are blocked, communications are stopped and all relationship and ties are broken as if they never existed in the first place.

So what does that teach you. Live each moment as it were your last cause you never know who will leave you side where and when in life. I guess it's a part of growing up and accepting the fact that times change, people change, loyalties change and so do feelings. New relationships and bonds are formed and older ones broken.

Nothing is static and life goes on.


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January 16, 2008 at 11:35 PM  

reminds me of a line i heard somewhere ,"you can buy as many friends as you like but ill hate you for free!"

January 16, 2008 at 11:58 PM  

true dat..

January 17, 2008 at 1:14 AM  

When did you get so cynical about friends and friendship.I thought you considered yourself blessed with wonderful friends.Well its your opinion and you are entitled to that but frankly I think generally yes people are like the way you described but somewhere your friends are a reflection of you.

January 24, 2008 at 1:07 PM  

I agree best friends is a myth.
There are surely , true friends and close friends to replace that myth and can they get a place on your list ?

February 22, 2008 at 9:59 PM  

@ imperfect : Maybe once in a while someone gets lucky.. sure why not. You can put them on the list. Just remember that close friends need not be true friends n vice versa.

February 23, 2008 at 1:54 PM  

It's a bit complicated!
But its only when u actually find the true,honest friend that you realise his/her value.From my very recent experience... at that very moment treasure them,feel thier presence&cherish the feeling.It might be the only you'll ever have in one lifetime!

June 5, 2008 at 10:12 PM  

maybe i am beginning to believe in true friendship again..

June 5, 2008 at 10:26 PM  

Still wondering where we figure in ur 1-6 types of you???

September 30, 2008 at 7:41 PM  

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